Wednesday, January 9, 2008

Chapter 2: Mr Fix-It and the Home-Improvement Committee

Life on Mars
A man's sense of self is defined through his ability to achieve results.

To offer a man unsolicited advise is to pressume that he doesn't know what to do or he can't do it on his own.

Life on Venus
A woman's sense of self is defined through her feelings and the quality of her relationship.

Give up Giving Advice
Generally speaking, when a woman offers unsolicited advice or tries to "help" a man, she has no idea of how critical and unsolving she may sound to him.

Learning to Listen
Many times a woman just wants to share her feelings about her day, and her husband thinking he is helping , interrupts her by offering a steady flow of solutions to her problems.

When our partner resist us it's probably because we have made a mistake in our timing or approach.

A man wants to make improvements when he feels he is being approached as the solution to a problem rather than as the problem itself.

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